The Link Between Your Profile and Your Messages

When your profile is strong, messaging women becomes much easier.

That's because a strong profile commands respect—it positions you as more valuable than the average guy.

Just because a woman matched with you doesn't mean she's ready to go on a date. You still need to message her—and honestly, you should want to get to know her first before deciding if you even want to go on the date.

And getting to know her isn't about interviewing her. It's about sparking a fun, flirty, emotionally engaging conversation that helps her open up.

But here's the thing: the exact same message can land completely differently depending on how your profile looks.

With a weak profile, she might see your flirty banter as cheesy, cringy or even insulting. But with a strong profile, she'll be more open, maybe even pouring her heart out in her replies.

That's the power of a strong profile.

Not only will she feel more confident in you, but you won't need to overthink your texts.

You can be playful, tease, and still come across as charming—something the guy with the "good enough to match" profile can't get away with.

Here's an analogy:

Why Do Businesses Have a Sales Team?

If a business had perfect marketing, it wouldn't need a sales team.

Sales exists to transfer conviction—one person's belief in a product to another.

A good salesperson makes you want, love, and need what they're selling.

But if the marketing already did its job—if you saw all the ads and read every article—you'd be sold before even speaking to a rep.

You're ready to hand over the cash.

And at that point, the only thing that could stop the sale is a bad salesperson using gimmicky tactics that make you second-guess your decision.

Most companies can't rely on perfect marketing alone—so they need sales to close the gap and carry you across the finish line.

Now, think of your dating profile as your marketing… and texting as your sales.

If you were a celebrity with a flawless profile, you wouldn't need to try hard at all.

You could probably just exchange Instagrams and send her an address.

Our goal is to get your profile to 80–90% of that "perfect" level.

So instead of relying on crazy texting skills just to land a date, you're already most of the way there.

In fact, with a strong profile, try-hard texting can backfire—just like how a bad salesman can ruin your desire for a product you already wanted.

Texting should feel smooth and effortless.

You're not trying to convince her—you're getting to know her and deciding if she's right for you.

Bottom line: a strong profile builds attraction, earns respect, and makes women want to engage.

All texting has to do is keep the momentum going—not build it from zero.